Anonymous asked: I don't really know anything about polygamy. But you describe yourself as agender/asexual/aromantic. What does all that mean, exactly? Also, how can you be attached to polygamy for the moment? (Just curious, not having a go). I thought polygamy was a life long thing? Like I said, I just don't know much about this stuff. So could you explain it? Thank yoooou. :)
Sure, why not? I mean, lots of people say GOOGLE IT but it’s often different for everyone, so there we are. It takes all sorts. :)
- Agender - I have no gender.
- Asexual - I am not sexually attracted to people.
- Aromantic - I am not romantically attracted to people, and don’t take part in romantic relationships.
I’m not polygamous; polygamy refers specifically to marriage, and I don’t want to get married. Yes, it is a lifelong thing, I guess? If people marry more than one person, that sounds pretty long-term to me.
I’m also not polyamorous, because polyamorous folk (for the most part, in my experience, there are plenty of exceptions) maintain multiple romantic relationships and I don’t maintain any romantic relationships.
As for the “for the moment” bit, that’s just a way of saying that everything is a bit transient. When I brought up my attitude to relationships in a polyamory forum online, everyone basically said, “okay so you’re not polyamorous because you don’t feel like you are, but we reckon the way you do things, ie: non-monogamy, will mean that you’ll always be welcome with the polyamorous folk regardless.” Which I thought was very sweet. :)
Since then, the best label I’ve found to describe what I do is “relationship anarchist”. Some relationships are friendships, some are sexual sometimes, and some are both sometimes. But each individual relationship stands on its own and is unaffected by the others. I guess some people are romantic within relationship anarchy, but not me.
Does that help? I hope so. :) If you want any more information about anything, googling will probably help a lot, but if you are still confused after that then please feel free to badger me further. Also, here is a badger for you. (Original, creative commons license)