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Anonymous asked: I don't really know anything about polygamy. But you describe yourself as agender/asexual/aromantic. What does all that mean, exactly? Also, how can you be attached to polygamy for the moment? (Just curious, not having a go). I thought polygamy was a life long thing? Like I said, I just don't know much about this stuff. So could you explain it? Thank yoooou. :)

Sure, why not? I mean, lots of people say GOOGLE IT but it’s often different for everyone, so there we are. It takes all sorts. :)

• Agender - I have no gender.
• Asexual - I am not sexually attracted to people.
• Aromantic - I am not romantically attracted to people, and don’t take part in romantic relationships.

I’m not polygamous; polygamy refers specifically to marriage, and I don’t want to get married. Yes, it is a lifelong thing, I guess? If people marry more than one person, that sounds pretty long-term to me.

I’m also not polyamorous, because polyamorous folk (for the most part, in my experience, there are plenty of exceptions) maintain multiple romantic relationships and I don’t maintain any romantic relationships.

As for the “for the moment” bit, that’s just a way of saying that everything is a bit transient. When I brought up my attitude to relationships in a polyamory forum online, everyone basically said, “okay so you’re not polyamorous because you don’t feel like you are, but we reckon the way you do things, ie: non-monogamy, will mean that you’ll always be welcome with the polyamorous folk regardless.” Which I thought was very sweet. :)

Since then, the best label I’ve found to describe what I do is “relationship anarchist”. Some relationships are friendships, some are sexual sometimes, and some are both sometimes. But each individual relationship stands on its own and is unaffected by the others. I guess some people are romantic within relationship anarchy, but not me.

Does that help? I hope so. :) If you want any more information about anything, googling will probably help a lot, but if you are still confused after that then please feel free to badger me further. Also, here is a badger for you. (Original, creative commons license)

100% true, but that doesn’t stop me trying, damn right.

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*Findings based on unobtrusive observation and speculation.

Aromantics represent.

All I want is to have enough room to stretch and wriggle and wake up without having to worry about waking you while we’re stuck together where our skin touches.

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It tickles me greatly that friends with benefits enjoy sex in an unattached sort of way, so… asexual friends with benefits enjoy a sort of similar scenario. But, less sticky. Yes?

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A reminder! :) These are being auctioned off for a good cause, and the bidding is only at £7…

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It’s Ace Awareness Week, and I’m auctioning off these handwarmers I made, money goes to a good cause. Please spread the word around, visit the page and leave a bid in the comments. Currently the bidding is just starting at 5p!

Tell people even if you don’t have many asexual followers, because some people might just like the colours or something. :)

Thanks, all! And I hope you’re having a good ace week!