I do this comic: Poly in Pictures
Chronic-fatigued, autistic, agender, asexual, aromantic, very connected to polyamory. Part-time knitter. I don't wear shoes. Preferred pronoun: singular they.
I just saw this tag on this post of an interview with Benedict Cumberbatch of Sherlock.
I would like to draw your attention to one half of the creators, Mark Gatiss, whose partner’s name on Wikipedia is named as Ian Hallard. He also wrote these excellent tongue-in-cheek Lucifer Box novels, about an openly bisexual spy.
See, he’s not in a closet. He’s on the phone.
I deleted the message before I had time to properly think about it, so I apologize to whomever sent it, but now that I’ve thought about it…
When you talk about “gay” and “lesbian,” you are talking about sex and only sex, right? The terms themselves refer to a type of sexual attraction.
What I mean is, a person who is romantically attracted to the same sex but NOT sexually attracted to the same sex would not a lesbian—they would be a homoromantic asexual. Because I am an asexual, and I am a heteroromantic/aesthetic asexual, and I do not consider myself straight. Because the word “straight” implies sex.
Therefore, I am not misrepresenting anyone by stating that the terms “gay” and “lesbian” refer specifically to sex and sexual attraction and only to sexual attraction (and not romantic attraction, as it is exclusive of sexual attraction). Right?
I’m sorry if I have this totally wrong.
I reckon a woman who’s romantically attracted to women and also asexual could describe herself as a lesbian. But then, labels are funny things, and it’s kind of wonderful that people can wiggle them about all over the place.